The other day I got a WhatsApp from a lesbian friend. “I’m worried lesbians are seen as anti-trans,” she said. This is someone who, even in her thirties, has struggled to embrace the word ‘lesbian’.

There is already so much shame and stigma around the word ‘lesbian’. In fact, the harmful stereotypes associated with the word have directly caused the majority (68%) of us to delay coming out. Lesbophobic tropes that we’re man-hating or unattractive are really just homophobia and misogyny rolled into one.