Listen, when it comes to prepping for sex, it’s sods law that the one day you take a day off from being ready at a moment’s notice is the day you’re likely to have sex. Everyone’s been caught short. And, while having the time to prepare for sex of any kind is key to the enjoyment of it later (because sex starts where? In the brain!), life likes to surprise us with horny interludes and sexy opportunities we may not have seen coming.

However, the toxic culture surrounding entitlement and expectation bottoms experience leads unwarranted pressure, stress and general worry around not having the perfect bootyhole at all times, which, let’s face it, isn’t realistic. Bottom-shaming is never okay, and before we get into the how-tos, we wanted to reiterate that there is nothing wrong with enjoying bottoming. And that as a bottom, you are not sloppy or ‘dirty’ by default and certainly shouldn’t expect degradation from your partner – unless you want it, of course. But that’s a different article.