If the answer to the question 'would you like to be dominated?' is 'yes, mistress', but you're a little unsure about where, or with whom to start your BDSM journey, then rejoice, sapphic sub. You're in for a treat. 

We've been busy chatting with the best doms in the biz to bring you the ultimate sapphic mean girl etiquette guide, so you know what to expect and can start asking for what you want, open-palmed and on bended knee, with all the respect Mommy (and you) deserve.

Let’s get back to basics with BDSM 

Understanding what lurks beneath the surface of our desire can render us tacky-palmed and tongue-tied. Because where do we even begin? There are so many avenues to explore and learn how you want sex to look and feel. Particularly so under the BDSM umbrella.

"The biggest cliché in BDSM is [that] it’s about pain," says Jane Grey, a professional dominatrix from London, the sun beaming through the blinds of her home as we chat over a video call. "It’s about an exchange of power and the willingness to give that up and the willingness to take on the responsibility consensually."