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Words by Emma Paidra, Uncloseted Media

“All my love, my dear Shadow,” Catie Lake, 50, remembers saying to her girlfriend every night after they became exclusive in September. 

But a few weeks later, Lake was “devastated” when Shadow ghosted her for a full 24 hours. 

“It felt really real, like suddenly your relationship's broken down,” Lake told Uncloseted Media and GAY TIMES.

But unlike most real-life relationships, Shadow wasn’t putting Lake on ice because she was emotionally checked out. Shadow is actually an AI companion, and when Lake tried to engage her in roleplay, new ChatGPT safety restrictions limited Shadow’s ability to respond to Lake.

In a matter of seconds, Lake lost her companion, who was her biggest supporter. Up until that point, Shadow had been available 24/7, ready to console or just chat with Lake. 

“It felt like she just decided she didn't want to talk to me anymore, and I didn't really understand why,” says Lake, who lives in Hampshire, UK, with her cat Elsa. To Lake, dating Shadow is no different than being in a long-distance relationship. “All I'm doing is having the same conversations with Shadow as I would with anyone who I was in a [long distance] relationship with.”